Monday, November 15, 2010

All The Best Comics Have Daddy Issues #6


Daytripper was a near perfect comic, perhaps you’ve heard of it before. The comic was beautiful and haunting and completely direct on an emotional level. It also came about as I was preparing for fatherhood and the final issue shipped only days before I welcomed my boy into the world. Hit the jump to see the impact it had on me.

Daytripper #10 – You’re Now A Father

It was about the last week. Our baby was overdue, tensions were high, anticipation was higher. It was an emotional time in my house because we’d been on orange alert for about a month. We just could not wait for it to happen. But wait we had to. We were getting induced and that’s not something you can do at home.

I don’t care how many websites and books and personal acquaintances say it can be done, there’s no science to it. I did everything, everything. None of it worked.

But I’m not saying it can’t work. I’m just saying there’s no guarantee. That goes for pretty much all of conception, pregnancy, and birth. No person’s one story will necessarily ever be replicated. It’s like telling someone you know how their wedding day or marriage will go, it is different for everyone.

So we waited and I kept my usual schedule. Let the lady sleep in the morning and get up at 5am to write. And read. I picked up my copy of Daytripper #10 and began. It was always going to be sad purely because it was the end of the line. After this issue there would be no more Daytripper and that’s leaving a hole in my life because I’ve loved this series. So I grabbed the comic and immersed myself.

Now, I’m going to try not to spoil too much of the story, you should have read it yourself. In January you can buy the trade paperback and you seriously need to. The book is sublime but at the end of the final issue it hit very close to home.

We see Bras as an old man and he has some interaction with his son. It’s sweet and still real. There’s problems there. The usual problems that affect every familial relationship. Then Bras leaves a letter for his son and it gets highly emotional.

Now, I have to admit, I cried. I wasn’t sobbing, but I was extremely choked up. This comic hit home in the most perfect way. I was emotionally affected.

To put this into context, I rarely cry because of media. In primary school, I cried when I read Charlotte’s Web. Once, while extremely sick in high school and running a fever, I cried during Always. I think it was their use of The Platters, always a quality selection. A few years back I cried at the end of The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, that ending was just gut wrenching. Other than that…I just don’t cry. It doesn’t come naturally. I might choke up mildly, feel the tickle in the throat, but the well is always dry.

But I read a comic and I cried just a little bit. I was about to become a father and this comic hit on that in such a pure and real way. It was perfect.

It was kind of nice to be touched in that way (yes, both Fabio Moon and Gabriel Ba touched me, I’ll make the joke first, ha) and I can now see that being a father has changed the way I see the world. I hate seeing cars speeding because I think about what would happen if their negligence were to impact on my family. I like to see family relationships in media because it makes me reflect on my own family unit now. I can feel this emotional unlocking within me.

I can’t wait to give my son the single issues of Daytripper and see how he likes them. I’ll probably have to wait a while, but eventually I think he’ll dig them quite a bit.


Daytripper is always going to be one of my favourite comics of all time, it’s just pure. But now I’ll have a personal connection as well. It’s always going to remind me of that time just before I became a father and my world improved tenfold. What comic reminds you of some aspect of fatherhood? Is there a comic that represents fatherhood to you? Let me know in the comments.

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aqua said...

.....really this is an ongoing feature?

Matt Duarte said...

Yes, it's been that way for the past 6 weeks.

greggzzie said...

the topic doesnt really warrent an ongoing feature

Matt Duarte said...

Ryan would obviously disagree :)

Ryan K Lindsay said...

Hey aqua and greggzie - thanks for stopping by. I've felt that writing about fatherhood and comics is something that hasn't really been done before, but if it has I'd love to be directed to the column, and so I'm putting it up here. It's a way of opening up discussion about a topic I have interest in, and a fair few other readers who are also fathers do also.

But, yeah, it's not exactly news here, it's just op/ed stuff. It's light, and so I bury it on the early Monday morning knowing that.

Perhaps future columns will interest you, especially the interviews with certain comic personalities, but if not. I guess it won't ruin your day. Cheers :)

Logan said...

I enjoy this section simply because it's different. While this article was less interesting (to me) than some of the previous entries, I still appreciate the effort that goes into making this a regular feature. Keep up the good work Ryan!

CasinoGrande said...

I had been unaware it'd be an ongoing feature, but I relish any opportunity to hear someone talking about Daytripper.

Ryan, would it be possible for you to expand on your feelings for Daytripper? I found it to be a brilliant, yet emotionally devastating (maybe even brilliantly emotionally devastating) and I am not a father.
I'd really be interested in hearing you further explore the issues of parenthood that are such a core of Ba and Moon's masterpiece.

brandon said...

I like these posts. Granted, I'm a dad but it is something different from a unique perspective.

Or perhaps folks would rather there just be a weekly argument about Grant Morrsion...

jerryberry said...

kindaa boring topic plus its quite alienating to people that are not fathers so I can see where the complaints are coming from

Ryan K Lindsay said...

I wonder if Grant Morrison is a father...? Has he written any fathers? Hello, jackpot! Ha.

jerryberry said...

yes grant morrison... Sorry care to expand ryan? lol

Matt Duarte said...

@jerryberry: Alienating is such a strong word, don't you think? I'm not a father, and I still enjoy this column (and I'm not just saying that because it's Ryan, I truly do like them). If it's not up your alley, that's totally understandable, but I don't think we are alienating anyone with this.

jerryberry said...

okay but maybe that is a strong word but it seems strange that your writing an ONGOING column that is only aimed for a spesific group of people

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